Stirring the Pot and Asking More Questions

Wow, I created quite a stir with my last post, didn't I? Well good!! To both men that left comments on the last post, first of all, thank you. It's always good to get the male's perspective. Secondly, these women are what I say they are. They (myself included) get asked out, just not by men they'd want to date (for instance, the last guy that asked me out this weekend was 5'4, Jewish, and at 29 still lived at home with his parents. No big deal other than the fact that I'm 5'7, Southern Baptist, and own my home - the cards are stacked against that relationship from the word go). What I'm asking for are the men that are the male version of these women. These women (again, including myself here) have worked hard to get where they are, and we're all looking for a sort of "counterpart" to compliment what we've done for ourselves so far. Where are these men? The men that are ambitious, the ones that take responsibility seriously enough to get a dog, or even dare I say a house, or at least an apartment of their own without roommates? The ones that work hard, but play hard. The ones that are stable, and no, not the "bad boys." We're all over that phase as we're all in our late 20's. And we're not looking for the "free ride" either. We can and do pay our own bills. It's the real deal we'd like to finally find. The companion. The partner. The other half.
I will give validation to the "Cinderella Complex" or the intimition factor. With good looks and everything in place, I can see where guys don't really know what they'd have to offer or where they'd fit in. But even with gushes of smiles and laughter, hair tossing, arm touching, and welcoming gestures, we attract the wrong men (case in point, please see above in the guy that asked me out this past weekend), or no men at all. There has to be something I'm missing. Like where the "good" guys hang out and just what does it take to get them to take the initiative? I see married ugly women all the time. And I can help but think, if she got someone to ask her, why are the rest of us having such a hard time?
Lastly, please don't think we're all desparate to marry. That's not it at all. I'm just bringing up the point that it's even difficult to find someone we'd actually want to date. I don't think our standards are so high nothing will do, but they aren't so low that we'd consider dating just anyone. Like I said, we've worked hard to get where we are, we take the time to get dressed, to make sure our hair and clothes look nice, and we're just looking for a guy that takes the same kind of pride in his life and appearance as well. I guess we're just not willing to settle. We haven't for anything else in our lives, why should we settle for the men in our lives?

Whew. I think I'm done with my soapbox.