Thursday, April 21, 2005
The Guilty Dozen
So today I get a call from our receiving department that I have flowers. Flowers? Well, maybe they're from a vendor. How sweet. But what for? So I trot my little happy ass down to the dungeon of the office building to pick up my flowers. What girl isn't excited to get flowers? When I show up, they hand me a vase of a dozen red long stem roses. I immediately realize these aren't from a vendor. And I open the card, and it reads, "Thinking of you." And it's from the guy mentioned in the posting below. Dammit. Just when I had made up my mind to say no again to his request for a date, he goes and does this. Don't get me wrong, I definitely don't want to come across as ungrateful. Not at all. I'm very appreciative and very flattered that he sent them to me. They're stunning. And I did call to thank him, after all, I was raised with manners. But a dozen red roses and I haven't even agreed to a date yet? It's overwhelming. And although many of you in the previous post encourage a date, I've since decided in follow up phone conversations with him since Saturday's party to yet again decline. Not only do we not have anything in common (another for instance is that he's at a Star Wars convention this weekend and I haven't even seen the movies), but although he says he wants to get to know me, somehow we'll spend the next 45 minutes talking about him. Or his dog. Or one of his friends. But now I feel so guilty. So tell me, do flowers constitute at least a first date out of guilt even though I'm positive I have zero romantic attraction for him? How can I say no now?
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7 comments:
You definitely DON'T owe him a date just because he sent you flowers. If you honestly don't want to go out with him, then don't. Talking to people who only talk about themselves is really annoying so I can understand how you feel. Plus-Star Wars convention??? No!
Well I agree with Sarah 100%. Just because he sends you roses, you do not owe him a date. If he thinks you owe him a date just for the roses.. what do you think he is going to be thinking you "owe" him for supper and a movie? He is probably at the Star Wars Convention now talking in some far distant language dancing around waving his light saber in his hand telling all the other wookies about the fact 'he thinks' the roses probably just put him on easy street for the date. When in fact I think he should have sent the roses AFTER the date. Sheesh! They teach us that in 6th grade P.E. here. You send the roses AFTER the date Obi Wana Know Me.
I didn't want to ruin the parade of comments that said to give him a chance in your last post, but I definitely don't think you should go out with him. We've talked about this before and not only is he not your type, but HELLO, he goes to Star Wars conventions. I bet he probably dresses up for them too. I would love to give him the benefit of the doubt, but from all I've heard, he really needs someone that is more like him, and that person is not you.
And how many times have you said no? Too many, he just doesn't get the clue, and that in itself is just sad.
The future Mr. Kara?
http://www.screamingpickle.com/members/StarWarsKid/
I'm laughing my ass off - Obi Wana Know Me - HA HA!!
(See if you can follow my rambling)
I am good friends with Sarah (who posted above). We have a mutual friend. One day, out of the blue, he asks Sarah out. Very nice - very sweet and Sarah said yes. Then she called me and said she thought it was a mistake and wanted things to stay the way they were. So she called him back and cancelled. I am sure it was very hard to do - but it was the right thing to do. We are all still good frinds to this day. Oh, and he is married - so obviously he was able to move on.
Anybody can buy flowers. Now if he cuts off a finger or toe and sends it to you, THEN you know it's something special.
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