Dear all eligible, dateworthy single men,
What the hell is wrong with you? Where are you? I have several absolutely beautiful friends that are all single and I have NO IDEA why. Let me give you a run down of just a few:
Let's start with my friend, "T.H." She's gorgeous. She's smart. She's tall. She's creative, and she's extremely talented. She's got long auburn hair that most women would die for, or at least dye for. She's funny, got a great smile, got a great job, and owns her own house. She loves to travel, loves to camp, loves to fish, loves to hike, owns a jeep AND a bassett hound. Hello!? She's by all accounts, a dream girl for any man who loves the outdoors. And she's single. Are you freakin' kidding me? I just don't get it.
Next, let's discuss my friend, "S.A." She's sassy. She's full of life and full of fun. She's beautiful. She's the essential absolutely take home to mom girl. She's intelligent. She's got a great job, owns her own house, and loves to entertain. She's a GREAT cook - you should try one of her Puerto Rican dishes! She loves to laugh. She's adventurous. She's courageous. And she looks adorable in any outfit she puts on. She undoubtedly will be the perfect wife and the perfect mom, and well-deserving of the perfect husband and father. She's extremely thoughtful and giving and she, too, is single. Again, are you freakin' kidding me? I just don't get it.
Third is my friend at work, "D.O." She is one of the funniest women I've ever met. She's constantly making me laugh. She's down-to-earth. She knows what she's talking about. She's totally got it together. She's very, very pretty with a perfectly straight and super white smile. She also owns her own house and has a great job. She does something to impress me every day and she doesn't even know it. She's very strong and very brave. She's so fun-loving and laid back, you just can't help but like her. She never gets stressed or uptight. Again, single, you know the drill. I don't get it.
I really could go on and on and on about many of my other single friends that I just don't understand why they're single. Single women with everything going for them. All with all kinds of different personalities. "C.C" is very bold and a bit on the wild side - but never a dull moment. "O.A." is hysterical and completely knows herself and what she wants. "D.P." and "H.P." - sisters with beautiful eyes, great jobs, independent, sweet as can be, and just so much fun to be around. I mean, if you're a worthy single guy, I've probably got a great single friend to suit your ideal of a perfect girl. Really, I do.
The problem is, where are the worthy single men? And what is wrong with you that you haven't asked any of these incredible women out? It boggles my mind that these women have gotten along this far in life without being snatched up. Are you guys afraid of women that have their crap together? Are you afraid of women with good jobs and independence and put a roof over their own heads? Well you should be ashamed if you are. These are the very women you should want. These are the women that will take care of you and love you for you, and not for what you can give them. These are the women that won't suck the life out of you because they don't have a life of their own. These women are the ones that you'll fill a want, a desire, a passion in their lives, which in my book, it much better than a woman that only is with you as a need. I'd take passion and desire over neediness any day , but that's just me and I'm not a man. So what is it that men want? What more could you ask for then what these women have to offer?
I challenge you to start up a conversation or ask these ladies out the next time you see them at the office, at the grocery store, at the art gallery, or even at the gas station. Somehow, I don't think you'll be disappointed that you did. Get YOUR crap together and get going.
Sincerely,
Kara
PS. I don't want to be left out, either. Please keep me in mind in your search as well. Yep, I'm single with a good job, a house of my own, a good-working brain...you know the drill.
4 comments:
From personal experience, S.A. is NOT a single mom. She is a high-powered attorney who is NOT a workaholic (standard 9 to 5/6 workdays, no working on the weekends). She gets asked out occasionally, but not by guys she is interested in. Despite what her friends might say about her being adventuresome and loving to entertain, she is actually quite shy and wouldn't dream of asking a guy out. Besides, she is very much a traditionalist and believes the guy should court her, at least initially. She doesn't think that the guy should always pay, so don't read that into what I said. She thinks that it is perfectly reasonable, and in fact she insists, that the couple should alternate paying for dates.
And in response to your posting from heytiff.blogspot.com, not all late 20-something/early-30s women want the bad boy. I know for a fact, that the majority of the women described on this blog want stability, the family life, the pickett fence and mortgage payments (or else they wouldn't own their own house in the suburbs). They are not attracted to the "bad boys" (hence the sentence above about S.A. being asked out by guys she is not interested in). And above all, they are tired of the "Game."
Well sounds to me that you have a great group of friends. I actually have some thoughts about them not having dates or boyfriends though. First, do they want boyfriends? I will let you in on a secret that not many women seem to know. It is a scientifically proven fact, men are easy. Also, where are they looking?
Something that just jumped out at me about your friends is how you described them all as "successful" and "independent". All of you own your own homes and have great jobs. As sad as it is, this sometimes is intimidating to men. Most times women like this appear to be "un-approachable". Women like this lots of time need to make themselves more approachable. I am not talking about wearing shirts that show all their cleavage, or short skirts or any of that either. I mean by smiling and not acting snobby or any of that. Many times women in this position will have to make the first contact, kind of break the tension with the first hello or something. Have to go out of their way to put the guy at ease, lots of times just saying “Hello” to a guy will put him at enough ease to at least strike up some conversation. For instance, I married a beautiful woman. The chances of me ever trying to talk to her were LOW, I mean really LOW. I had tried to talk to her once and she did not act like she was very receptive of my conversation, and to me that was enough of that. I walked into a class we had together and she just said “Hey, do you want to come sit here with me?” That is all it took, a tension breaker. But sadly after that it would have taken a restraining order to keep me away from her.
Lastly I actually agree with something "t" posted. There may also be a chance you are not seeing these women as men are seeing them. I am not doubting they are all great women like you described, I am just pointing out there may be a chance of different perceptions. There have been many times my wife has made comments about one of her friends, how cute they are and I just remain silent. She thinks they are cute because of their personality and they are so much fun to be around and all of that. But that is not how I see them, not even close. But on the other hand there have been women that I see and go “Oh, now she is pretty, who is that?” My wife will look at them and go, “Her? I don’t think so, she is such a bitch!” So, chances are you are not seeing them the same way most men are. But I do wish them lots of luck! They sound like they will all be a great catch to some lucky guy!!
My bad, sorry t. I should learn to read better - ha ha!
Although none of the girls featured in this blog have been married and most are getting closer and closer to the big 3-0.
I just stumbled into this blog after a "what men wants" search. Sounds pathetic huh? I have lots of great, intelligent and beautiful single friends too and have been wondering about the same things you were asking. Just can't help but wonder how come some dumb bimbos end up with a great "catch" while the more the successful and independent women end up with nothing or just rejects. Do men like girls who are "helpless" or the damsels in distress types" or those who make them feel smart?? Does it hurt their egos if the girl is smarter than them. If that's the case, I guess I have to start pretending that I'm dumb and in need of a man in shining armor.
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